If you’ve got the strength and are fully ready to leave you say nothing and Haters gonna hate shirt. Just go and never look back. Go no contact and deal with your trauma and heal. When the smear campaign starts speak your truth if needed only for the sake of staying true to yourself. If you lose friends that’s ok. They never really knew you anyway. Best wishes for a thriving future narc free! Lets see, first I was a kitchen porter for a couple of years. I was young, but unloading deliveries, stocking the refrigerators, and sweeping the floor is the first step. Then I was a prep cook. The most unglamorous of the cooking positions. I spent my days cutting, chopping, and dicing vegetables, and making various stocks. I eventually moved to the cold salad station, not really a “cook” position, but at least I was there in the actual kitchen during service. Then I was moved to sauces, then saute’, then grill, all the while calling myself “cook”.
I officially became a chef when after about 8 total years in kitchens (it was stop start due to school, college, and a different career) I finally because the Sous Chef. Essentially the second in command. The XO of the kitchen, if you will. Finally I became the Executive Chef. I was proud to have earned it, and my peers, by acknowledging me with that title when talking to me recognized it as well. He prescribed me an antidepressant instead of sleeping pills. However that visit to the Dr. proved to be the start of a severe and enduring illness…Indeed what he initially thought was depression turned out to be the early stages of the onset of Schizophrenia. Today I survive on Government handouts and am blessed to have a social Housing flat. But I’m extremely conscious of it and most of the time I feel like a waster, a loser looked down on by others for scrounging of the State.