You can’t stumble into your wisdom by simply existing. Rather, the elders and women I admire have worked for this distinction. “They had the opportunity to say, everyone’s terminal on this bus, and this is a big adventure, so I might as well take it,” Beck says. “They have chosen that story and you can feel it in their freedom and their vibrancy. Like Ruth Bader Ginsburg, just an energy machine to the end: She chose and chose and chose to see the world as a positive place. It’s very simple. Around an older, you feel bad. Around an elder, you feel good. Even Gen Z, who will inherit an even worse planet in the coming decades, is looking to wisdom of the elders. “I feel like I relate more to Ina Garten than I do Addison Rae,” explains Bianca Garcia, a 22-year old social media editor at Glossier. “They are so wise and have been through life and thrived,” she says, echoing Beck. “Most of them are thriving in industries that have had an age limit for women. Being an actress, you are 30 and you’re done, but for them, they just said no.