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I was just thinking about this the Official meowgical unicorn shirt in addition I really love this other day! My PhD focus was confessional poetry, so I’ve been working on, like, Sylvia Plath and Anne Sexton for forever. Something that I always think about is like, the fact that so many male writers killed themselves, but like their entire bodies of work their entire lives do not like get boiled down to that, right? Whereas with women writers who kill themselves, it’s like everything was always just leading up that. It’s this idea that if a man does it, it’s like, speaking on some sort of like world-historical trauma that manifests in the male genius, whereas women [kill or harm themselves] because they’re ridiculous narcissists. I also never want to speak with authority on experiences that are not my own, especially in relation to marginality and trauma, because I don’t like the idea of being held accountable for a sort of universalized experience that doesn’t exist. Even in How To Be A Good Girl, I talk a little bit about how a couple of my friends were expecting this book to be kind of like a memoir of transness. And that’s just not what it is, because that’s not how I imagine transition and that’s not how I imagine my womanhood.