My adversary insisted on The Black Eyed Peas 26th anniversary 1995-2021 thank you for the memories shirt calling his adult client by her first name. Both the judge and the client were African American so the judge viewed it not only as a violation of his preferences but deeply disrespectful for a younger white male to refer to an older black female by her first name. And after being chided for it several times, he appeared to be almost pathologically incapable of doing anything but calling and referring to her by her first name. He became that nervous and it was clearly happening unintentionally. That became a major distraction during the trial and one of those things where every time he did it, the jury looked to see how the judge was going to react.
Know the judge’s preferences and follow them. If they are unclear, act like a guest in someone’s home and ask permission for everything until you are told otherwise. The jury can’t just get up and do what they want in a courtroom. They’ve accepted the authority of the judge. If they get the sense that you are challenging the judge’s authority to run her courtroom, you are going to create a negative impression. I act like a student in a well respected teacher’s classroom. Rise to speak to the Court, ask permission to do anything, rise when the judge or jury enters or leaves the room. I even ask permission to pour myself a glass of water from counsel table so that the jury without a glass of water is not looking over at me just drinking when they may want a drink themselves. Nobody ever looks at you with disfavor for showing excessive respect to the Court and institution. The converse is not true.