After reading everyone’s answers, which were all great Joey Buckets Fist Pump Brooklyn Fan Club since 2020 shirt, I don’t feel this is a yes or no question. Because every person including those who are and those who are not narcs is different. Some people identified as Narcs, are at different points on a scale of basic narc to off the hook borderline sociopath to you will never get away from this person unless you kill them or they kill you. I don’t believe there is a cookie-cutter or even a general set of molds we can use when it comes to personality disorders. Equally, I think some move on while others tear your lives apart and you have to run for your life, and in some cases endure beatings, rapes, and even murders.
But when it comes to ever let us go and forgetting us? They can let go because some of us have forced them to. But forgetting us – I think we are always there. And mostly – because they are using us to trash years later when pursuing someone new. A Narc trashes previous relationships – if that is their mode of operation, clearly they don’t forget about us, and to some degree, you could consider the fact that they talk about us at all – means they have not let us go because they still talk about us. Not sure if that helps, and I know “supply” is a new word folks use, and maybe it is just me but using the word new or old “supply” makes me feel less than human and despite my horrific mistakes in relationships with the narcissist in the past I consider my value well beyond having been an old or new “supply.”